When a relationship is at breaking point it can seem as if separation or divorce is your only option. But talking through your problems together with a trained relationship counsellor can help you get to the heart of your conflicts and come to value each other’s beliefs and feelings.
If a separation is in your best interest, therapy can make that transition constructive over destructive, both for you and your children.
Benefits of couples counselling Therapy
Learn listening and communication skills that actually work
Learn how to negotiate and compromise
Connect with and support each other despite differences
Find solutions to longstanding conflicts and commit to action
See new perspectives you've overlooked
Look at constructive ways forward that work for you both.
What is a session like?
During our first 50 minutes session/assessment I will ask about what bought you to counselling, as well as take a general history of your relationship. I may ask questions such as:
What issues have you been experiencing in your relationship?
How long have these issues been a problem in your relationship?
Have you ever been in relationship counselling before?
What have you and your partner done to try to resolve these issues?
What are your expectations of couples counselling?
Each further session will be 50 minutes. I do not side with either one of you, but listen to and support you both equally, creating a space for you both to talk, and diffuse any explosive emotions into constructive sharing.
How many sessions do you have to attend?
For some couples a single session suffices. But usually, you will see your me over a period of weeks or months. Both you and your partner come to each session together, unless it's been arranged for each of you to see me separately before again meeting up as a couple.
Will I tell you what to do?
No, my aim is not to resolve your issues for you, but to develop your listening, communication, and negotiating skills so you can resolve your issues for yourselves. The point is that you both take responsibility for your choices and actions and for how you will move forward.
A good couple's therapist simply listens, observes, reflects back, and asks good questions. They create a safe environment for you to talk openly about what is upsetting you and in some cases I will work with you to explore your childhood and family history to identify where the behavioural patterns holding back your relationship arise from.
Please contact me for more information on my services